Need Versus Want

Recently someone asked a question about need versus want. He explained that when he has a want for something, he is not highly motivated in receiving it and therefore cannot manifest it.

Just because you don't need something, doesn't mean you shouldn't be able to have it. If you focus on your want with passion, that is enough to have it manifest. In Rhonda's book, The Secret, she told of a man who wanted to attract a feather, just to see if this L.O.A. stuff really works. He imagined the markings on his distinct feather and stumbled upon it in New York City of all places!

Then there was a lady who wanted to test the waters by imagining a white-collar lily. She didn't need this flower any more than the man needed the feather. Yet she thought of her imagined flower throughout the day. A week or two later, she went to her friend's house for dinner. To her amazement, there was a bouquet of white-collar lilies on the table! As the woman was leaving, the hostess' daughter pulled a flower from the bouquet and handed it to her.

I’ve seen and heard of many things people attracted that they didn’t necessarily need. Many people have attracted dream cars, when they already had a car. Joe Vitale is a collector of cars! I attracted clothing, bags and shoes in my life as I am a clothes horse and such items bring me joy. Some of the items were free, others came at a deep discount. Did I really need a Marco Buggiani handbag? Nope, I just wanted a bag that was out of my budget.


Some people feel guilty for intending to attract a want as opposed to a need. They’ll only ask for money when their lights are turned off. Furthermore they’ll only ask for the very amount that will satisfy the electric company. What about next month … and the month after that? Wouldn’t you want to live in abundance, so you’ll never have to worry about a light bill?

To Change Your Body, You Must Love The Body You're In

I realized my focus was on "losing weight". Going to the gym was not fun anymore. It was a chore! I went to the gym in the mornings before work, so I would be sure to get my workout in. Now, at 5:30 am, the gym is full of patrons who are serious about weight loss and building a better body. I looked around the gym and noticed already buff men and women working hard toward their goals. I watched people dropping body weight as the months went by. I was wondering why all these people were in the gym at this hour "when they really didn't need to be there". The answer to that question is, they were maintaining what they already have! A beautiful body! I decided to picture myself as thin person who's goal is to add a little more muscle. I became more casual about my workouts. If I didn't have time to get on the fly machine, no problem! I just grabbed a couple of free weights, lie on the bench and lifted the weight in a similar motion. I went from being "grim" to having fun.

I began to eat healthier and enjoy what I was eating. I was feeling proud of my choices and felt better physically. I had more energy, which helped boost my confidence. I allowed myself treats every now and then, so I wouldn't gorge on forbidden foods at a later time.

I also had to address other issues. I needed to feel good about me. If I'm feeling frumpy, it is very difficult to attract the perfect body. Again, my imagination was called into play. I pictured myself as already having arrived. I walked with a spring in my step. I spoke more with more confidence. I stopped trying on five different outfits each morning, deciding I looked "fat" in each one.

Once that happened, I began to lose weight. I lost 35 pounds so far! I still want to lose another 25 pounds, but I'm keeping the same approach.

My Very Own "Skirt Story"

I wrote this story in June of 2011, on a forum and thought I would share it here. This is my very own "skirt story". Enjoy!


I had just finished reading the book The Power by Rhonda Byrne. In the book, Rhonda explains how she fell in love with a woman's skirt while on vacation in Paris. A while later, she was home in Australia and on her way to work. She was caught in traffic and had nothing to do, but sit and wait. She looked out her window and saw the very skirt, she admired in Paris in a shop window near her office. Later that day, she went back to the store to buy the skirt. There was only one skirt in that style and of course, it was in her size! The amazing thing about her story is, the shop owner did not order that particular skirt and it was accidentally included in their order!

Now, my story. I was shopping for a trendy handbag that would be appropriate to take on job interviews. I tend to buy larger bags with zippers, studs or other trims. I did not want to spend a lot of money, so I went to large store that carries designer brands for less.

I saw a really nice bag that would have been perfect, except it was orange. They also had the same bag in mustard. I wanted to see if they carried it in black or brown. I looked throughout the department, but did not see this particular bag in black or brown. I saw another bag that was made by the same company, but it was a little too funky. Even too funky for me, but it had the same basic shape as the one I'd fallen in love with. So, I purchased the bag.

I took it home and noticed they hadn't taken the ink tag off. At first I was like, "oh man! They didn't take off the ink tag!" Then I thought about bringing the bag back to the store near my home (I bought the bag in their sister store in another town near my friend's house). On the way to the store near me, I had an epiphany. Maybe this is meant to be. I'll bet they'll have the bag I wanted in black. The chances of this item being in stock was slim, because black and brown are the most popular colors. I went to the store and searched around for awhile and there it was. The bag I really wanted in black! I took it to the register and made the exchange.

Since that time, I've been able to attract many nice things into my life. I've found books that were out of print. I've gone to sales and bought the last item in my size. I have been given many gorgeous items of clothes, books and CD's. Whenever I go shopping, I expect to be amazed!

Getting Clear On What You Want

When it comes to manifesting your desires, you need to send out a clear signal of the things you want. This helps to put you on the same frequency as your desires. It’s not enough to say, “I want a new house” or “I want to make more money”. You need to have an idea of what kind of house you are wanting and what you would like your salary to be.

This reminds me of the story John Assaraf told as published in the book, The Secret. He had made several vision boards and placed them in his office, where he would see them everyday. He looked at his boards constantly and would visualize himself having each of these things. He deeply got into the feelings of having these things and felt as if he had them already. 

He then packed his vision boards as he was getting ready to move. He made three moves and after five years, he opened the box in which they were contained. After a few moments, he realized he was living in the very house that was on his vision board! My guess is he wouldn’t have attracted that house without getting clear on what he wanted and he may not have gotten clear on what he wanted without a vision board.

I made a board that was very specific, complete with floor plans and an idea of how I want each room too look. Of course, it’s difficult to get various views of a room, but my photos provide enough information to “fill in the blanks”. This helps me “walk through the house” in a fluid manner, while imagining going about my routine in that lovely setting. 

When your mind can take you somewhere, you will get there in the body.
Imagine taking a bath in that spacious sunken tub. See yourself preparing your homemade lasagna on the beautiful granite counter top and baking it in the stainless steel oven. Envision yourself and your loved one sitting in a cozy home theater watching your favorite movie and eating popcorn!

There's a fabulous new life waiting for you to claim as your own! You are the designer of your own life, but you must get there in the mind first. Step in and enjoy.